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I have a serious problem, and I need some advice. Someone that I know in real life, someone near and dear to me, wants to know what it is that I do on my computer and what kinds of websites that I go to. A part of me wanted to explain it to them, but I just couldn't. I'm deeply afraid of what would happen if anyone I knew would find out about all the things that I'm sexually interested in. And I'm terrified of how they would view me if they found out.
This is what I wanted to ask you all. How could you explain to someone that you're sexually interested in something, not just mpreg but sexual fetishes in general, that doesn't fit the social norm?
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I think it's all about comfort/trust level. It's either there or it isn't. If you're comfortable and trust that the person will accept everything you're interested in, then it won't be as scary.
I don't know the dynamics of the relationship, but it seems, based off your post, that it's not at a level just yet where you feel comfortable to reveal.
NOW, if that person drops hints on their own that they are interested in the same kind of things you are (the things that you're scared to reveal), then you might want to consider bringing it up.
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well my advice is never tell it. why? people can understand you fancy big girls, you fancy boy but no one can understand about you like pregnancy. It's so weird for everyone. So if this person loves u, you should tell him her to trust u and lets you a private space.
in spain a proverb says: they go in labor they decide.... I WANNA DECIDE TOO..
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Just because someone has the audacity to ask about private matters does not mean that they should get a response. I suggest turning it around back to them: "I think it's a strange (or too private or too personal, whatever fits the situation between you two) Why are you so curious about what I do on my computer?" Or respond humorously: "Oh, oh oh! The computer is my innermost, deep dark secret - something I keep private between me and cyberspace." Or quite simply: "Some things are private. This is one of them." Or: "You are curious about unnecessary matters."
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I can explain some one to describes his good and bad qualities. Which He has.
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My online activity outside of the workplace is no one else's business other than my own. I don't remember having ever had to explain what websites I was visiting and when. The ones I mention to people are those I'm happy to tell them about.
I've never personally come across anyone face-to-face who has openly shared the pregnancy fetish, yet alone Mpreg. I've only ever once overheard a conversation (ironically, at work) by a female colleague who said "some men are into that, aren't they?" in quite a scornful tone - when the subject of pregnancy come up with other colleagues.
I've said this before, if not on this forum then certainly elsewhere, that this fetish is one that I fully expect to keep a secret and take to my grave with me.
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01-03-2023, 04:45 PM
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For me, mpreg isnt sexual, but I've told my husband, two therapists and my mother about mpreg. My therapists have no issue with it. My first therapist thought it was super interesting and was very encouraging about it.
My mom thought it was fine, but was just concerned about me getting hurt if someone found out and reacted negatively.
My husband (boyfriend when I told him about it) was against it at first. He didn't understand it, and at that time we were in a place that was very homophobic, and we were both in the mindset that anything remotely fem would make us targets. After we got married we got a couples therapist for guidance (both of us come from broken homes) and brought it up to her. We talked through it and my husband came to understand my perspective on it he came to appreciate it more. Now we live in a place that is more tolerant, and we are able to relax and be ourselves, so it's much less of an issue. Sometimes I even wear my bump in public and no one seems to notice.
When it seems like no one else loves you, remember that I do.