11-05-2019, 02:32 PM
First, I've gotta reinforce everything that MassiveBellyLovr said. 100% agree. Keeping your distance for the foreseeable future is probably best.
Second, if you absolutely must interact with him, I would recommend apologizing. No conditionals, "Sorry I asked you out again after you told me you're straight, but..." A full out "Sorry I asked you out after you already said you were straight. That was really rude and disrespectful of me." Anything other than that is just going to make him self-conscious about whatever he's doing that you perceive as gay and cause mental and emotional issues for him. And even if he is closeted, that's only going to compound on whatever issues are potentially keeping him in the closet.
Asking anyone out after they've already told you their sexuality isn't compatible with you is pretty rude. Respect people when they tell you their sexuality regardless of how "questionable" you think it is. Doing anything else just further enforces stereotypes about acting straight vs acting gay and does nobody any favors. It doesn't matter how many signs there are that their sexuality is not what they've said. Don't presume to know someone's mind and heart better than they do.
In the future the best thing you can do for someone that you suspect is in the closet is to let them find their own way out. Lead your own life in a way that shows them there is no shame in being LGBTQ+ and that there is just as much happiness to be found living a LGBTQ+ life as there is in living a straight one. Don't pressure them, don't ask them out, don't question them. Lead by example and trust that they will eventually find their own happiness.
Second, if you absolutely must interact with him, I would recommend apologizing. No conditionals, "Sorry I asked you out again after you told me you're straight, but..." A full out "Sorry I asked you out after you already said you were straight. That was really rude and disrespectful of me." Anything other than that is just going to make him self-conscious about whatever he's doing that you perceive as gay and cause mental and emotional issues for him. And even if he is closeted, that's only going to compound on whatever issues are potentially keeping him in the closet.
Asking anyone out after they've already told you their sexuality isn't compatible with you is pretty rude. Respect people when they tell you their sexuality regardless of how "questionable" you think it is. Doing anything else just further enforces stereotypes about acting straight vs acting gay and does nobody any favors. It doesn't matter how many signs there are that their sexuality is not what they've said. Don't presume to know someone's mind and heart better than they do.
In the future the best thing you can do for someone that you suspect is in the closet is to let them find their own way out. Lead your own life in a way that shows them there is no shame in being LGBTQ+ and that there is just as much happiness to be found living a LGBTQ+ life as there is in living a straight one. Don't pressure them, don't ask them out, don't question them. Lead by example and trust that they will eventually find their own happiness.