12-03-2014, 04:38 PM
(This post was last modified: 12-03-2014, 05:26 PM by InkingIncubus.)
I'm sorry I can't provide a thought-out reply at this time, although I would like to, but I will say that I believe this topic should have its own thread for friendly debate so that this thread can stick to welcoming etc.
PreggyShelly, many things you have said I find quite offensive and an attack to our personal identities. Please don't confuse this as anger- I am merely stating my opinions and feelings. I would be more than happy to explain how, but today is going to be Hell on earth for my workload today.
As a quick piece of advice, though, I would suggest that you do not call a transmale "sis." It's true, I do often call women and girls "dude" as an expression of a person, but I believe society has developed it into being androgynous, and I have not recieved complaints yet.
Sis however, and I'm sorry if I'm misunderstanding this, if directed at me would make me feel extremely hurt and scared. By calling me sis, you 1- out me, thus putting me in mental and physical danger and 2- express to me that my mental identity is not real or just a "phase", or that I am not real and my feelings or opinions illegitimate .
It is my preference, and I know it is the preference of most if not all trans* people I know, not to call them by their birth-assigned-sex when passing in public.
Honestly if someone called me sis or a woman while I was passing and they new, I'm not sure if I would cry on the spot or punch them in the nose.
That may be the hormones talking. x_x
Unfortunately this is all I have time for. x_x. I'm not meaning to hurt or offend, merely teach and critique so we can all live happy, comfortable lives.
Actually, if anyone wouldn't mind, I would love to create a thread for this discussion. I love organizing information and preparing for educational debates. Unfortunately I would have to do it tomorrow in the evening (possibly around 8pm-9pm est.). I could include polls, background information, definitions/FAQ, whatever to have a neutral opening to the panel. Is this okay with everyone? If so, I'll link it here after it is done being created.
PreggyShelly, many things you have said I find quite offensive and an attack to our personal identities. Please don't confuse this as anger- I am merely stating my opinions and feelings. I would be more than happy to explain how, but today is going to be Hell on earth for my workload today.
As a quick piece of advice, though, I would suggest that you do not call a transmale "sis." It's true, I do often call women and girls "dude" as an expression of a person, but I believe society has developed it into being androgynous, and I have not recieved complaints yet.
Sis however, and I'm sorry if I'm misunderstanding this, if directed at me would make me feel extremely hurt and scared. By calling me sis, you 1- out me, thus putting me in mental and physical danger and 2- express to me that my mental identity is not real or just a "phase", or that I am not real and my feelings or opinions illegitimate .
It is my preference, and I know it is the preference of most if not all trans* people I know, not to call them by their birth-assigned-sex when passing in public.
Honestly if someone called me sis or a woman while I was passing and they new, I'm not sure if I would cry on the spot or punch them in the nose.
That may be the hormones talking. x_x
Unfortunately this is all I have time for. x_x. I'm not meaning to hurt or offend, merely teach and critique so we can all live happy, comfortable lives.
Actually, if anyone wouldn't mind, I would love to create a thread for this discussion. I love organizing information and preparing for educational debates. Unfortunately I would have to do it tomorrow in the evening (possibly around 8pm-9pm est.). I could include polls, background information, definitions/FAQ, whatever to have a neutral opening to the panel. Is this okay with everyone? If so, I'll link it here after it is done being created.
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RP Availability: BOOKED
Google: InkubusInk
YIM: inkingincubus
